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Editor’s Note: with many approaching the holidays with a loss recently behind them, and their grief overlaid with the despair of these times, we thought this Dr. Neimeyer column might be helpful–LL Dear Dr. Neimeyer– My husband died just over a year ago, so now begins my second year without him, and I am not […]
Continue ReadingEditor’s Note: with many approaching the holidays with a loss recently behind them, and their grief overlaid with the despair of these times, we thought this Dr. Neimeyer column might be helpful–LL Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband Don died 9 months ago after a rapid decline; and his lungs basically stopped working, even with oxygen treatments. […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My therapist showed me your website and I’m grateful for her suggestion to join and get involved here. My mother was killed in 2012 and I’m still struggling very much with what I’m told is called complicated grief. I was very very close to my mum, who was my best friend, my […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, I have a question please. I lost my sixteen year old son in an accident only fifteen months ago. I can hardly walk through this house of memories, so I stay isolated in one room. I do not want to be bothered. My mom lives here and has taken over for a […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My 27 year old son died almost two years ago. The first year was hard but I mostly felt in a fog. Now it seems that fog is lifting, but this second year is proving to be a lot worse than the first. I am remembering more about the death and funeral […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife and I lost our 23- year-old daughter to an accidental drug overdose just over one year ago, and of course we have been devastated by the loss. Each of us has coped in our own way, and we continue to function in practical terms, although the early months were pretty […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve heard about your work with traumatic bereavement and decided to reach out with a question. I hope you don’t mind. How would you recommend I work through your process of meaning making after loss — is it through your book/workbook or with a counselor? Four years ago, I survived a head-on collision, but […]
Continue ReadingWhat is the Meaning of Life? is re-published in remembrance of 9/11 Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have just one question, but it is a big one. In your opinion, what is the meaning of life?–Nicolae Dear Nicolae, I’m a practicing psychologist who works alongside people who are struggling with deeply unwelcome changes in their lives–the […]
Continue ReadingFor Labor Day… Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I work on an oncology unit in a large metropolitan hospital as a senior nurse, supervising several RNs and nursing assistants who care for many seriously ill patients. Although most of the care we provide supports their recovery, we also lose many patients each week, some of whom are […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, I know from you writings and my own experience as a social worker in other settings that people contending with a traumatic loss benefit from having a safe space to slowly and fully tell the story of their loved one’s death, and reflect on its meaning for their lives. This can be […]
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