I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago while we were getting ready for his grandmother’s funeral. There were so many unanswered questions, as our daughter was only a year old and she is  now nearing 30. But my question is why I still have my moments of tears and

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A Veteran and a partner’s suicide

Editor’s note: we are reprinting this post in honor of all who have served their country as we approach the anniversary of D-Day this week.  Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My partner committed suicide in front of me last February. He asked me to hold his hand. I always promised I’d be there for him, regardless. But

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Inconsolable Grieving: Ask Dr. Neimeyer Special

EDITOR’S NOTE: Two weeks ago we published an Ask Dr. Neimeyer column entitled “Inconsolable Grieving for My Wife” based on a question by ‘Samuel.’ There was such an outpouring of comments, we felt that this week we would publish some of them (the authors all agreed). To see the original column, click this link: INCONSOLABLE

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Unfinished Business: Adult Children and Parents

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m a clinical psychologist.  I work with many adults who have very difficult relationships with their parents.  Some say they anticipate they will feel relief when their parents die.  Then they feel guilty for feeling that way.  Do you have any advice/thought for people whose grief or anticipated grief is complicated in this way?

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Will life get better for me?

Hi Dr. Neimeyer, My husband of 40 years died three years ago after a very short illness. (Cancer). Never sick. We had no children, just our beloved pets. He was my life, soulmate, my everything! When he died, I died a little too! I guess my question is, will life get better for me? A

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Dr. Neimeyer Announces Inaugural Summer Institute in Grief Therapy at the Portland Institute

Dear colleague, It is our great pleasure to share with you that our Inaugural Summer Institute will be happening on June 17-21, 2019 in Portland, OR, USA. This week-long immersion in experiential workshops is designed to add conceptual clarity, hone process expertise, and especially give participants practical tools to enhance their practice of grief therapy

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“I sadly lost my boy, 18 years old, in a car accident…”

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, A few months ago, I sadly lost my boy, 18 years old, in a car accident. I have been having bereavement counselling but struggling to build up a rapport.  So a friend suggested this site. Since it happened, I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks, something I have never suffered with

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