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Getting through grief without anti-depressants?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Is the best and probably only way to get through complicated grief through the use of anti-depressants? Thanks. Demi   Dear Demi, Both clinical experience and clinical research suggest that antidepressant medication is a mixed blessing in the context of bereavement, for several reasons. In fact, for many years psychiatrists agreed that

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Dr. Neimeyer Announces Inaugural Summer Institute in Grief Therapy at the Portland Institute

Dear colleague, It is our great pleasure to share with you that our Inaugural Summer Institute will be happening on June 17-21, 2019 in Portland, OR, USA. This week-long immersion in experiential workshops is designed to add conceptual clarity, hone process expertise, and especially give participants practical tools to enhance their practice of grief therapy

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I Lost My Older Brother… Grieving and Depression

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my older brother just a few weeks ago. I feel so sad and depressed. Plus I have major depression and an anxiety disorder, panic disorder too. Could losing my brother make me have lapse back into a deep depression again? -Phoebe Dear Phoebe, The short answer to your question is “Yes,

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My Mother Died: Which Mother am I Writing To?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve been a fan of AfterTalk and your column for sometime. I have used “Private Conversations” to talk with my deceased father for years.My mother died two weeks ago. I am starting to gel my “Conversations”  to my mother in my head. Here’s the rub, and the challenge: Which Mother am I writing to?

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Wounded Healer: An Ask Dr. Neimeyer Guest Column

Editor’s Note: This week is a departure. The following was written by Mary Jane Hurley Brant, M.S., CGP in response to last week’s post about a therapist who had experienced both multiple personal losses and a practice relocation. You can read it at this link:  CLICK HERE. Mary Jane is a frequent contributor to AfterTalk. This is

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A therapist experiences heavy losses…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Following a succession of family deaths over an 18 month period, compounded by a difficult move to another part of the country for my husband’s work, I find myself struggling emotionally with my career as a psychologist.  Feeling overwhelmed, I took time off from my practice, and now have to start again

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Doctor depressed by Patient Suicide x

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have a friend who is a retired Obstetrician/Gynecologist from a world renowned medical group. He ruminates and is depressed about a patient he had many years ago. She suffered from postpartum depression after giving birth, and then died by suicide. He tells the story that she came to him, and he

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Why do I want to live? x

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife of over fifty years died a little over a year ago from a stroke. I have talked with my pastor, a psychologist, my family and friends and it seems nothing helps me.  I was her caregiver for about eight years, which given the opportunity I would do it all again. I

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