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Lost my Husband and my Dad…

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | April 9, 2018 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr, Neimeyer, It’s been around two years now since I lost my husband and my dad a few weeks apart. The grief is still so debilitating I can hardly get up in the morning. I see a therapist but it doesn’t feel like it’s helping very much. I attempted to take my life earlier […]

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Mourning a Former Spouse: Disenfranchised Grief

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | April 2, 2018 | 16 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My ex-husband and I were married for 25 years, together 28. We raised four children together. He was charming, sociable, affectionate, intelligent and silly. We enjoyed numerous good times. Toward the end, however, he became abusive and I made excuses to stay. After he took out his anger on one of the […]

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“I Lost My Mother…”

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 26, 2018 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my mother to a terminal disease last year–a horrible disease, and she was in a horrible shape when she passed. The stress of caring for her got to me sometimes, and although I gave her everything she needed, sometimes it was not done with a loving heart. So I have […]

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Coping with the autopsy

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 19, 2018 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My son John, died just 14 months ago at 31 years of age. The Coroner’s findings were that he died from Mixed Drug Toxicity, Drug Induced Cardiomyopathy and Chronic on Acute Pancreatitis. John was also Hep C+ve. His father died from a long and complicated course of illness that extended through John’s […]

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Wounded Healer: An Ask Dr. Neimeyer Guest Column

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 12, 2018 | 0 Comments

Editor’s Note: This week is a departure. The following was written by Mary Jane Hurley Brant, M.S., CGP in response to last week’s post about a therapist who had experienced both multiple personal losses and a practice relocation. You can read it at this link:  CLICK HERE. Mary Jane is a frequent contributor to AfterTalk. This is […]

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A therapist experiences heavy losses…

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 5, 2018 | 3 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Following a succession of family deaths over an 18 month period, compounded by a difficult move to another part of the country for my husband’s work, I find myself struggling emotionally with my career as a psychologist.  Feeling overwhelmed, I took time off from my practice, and now have to start again […]

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Parting with a loved one’s belongings x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 26, 2018 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife passed away two years ago. We were both in our middle 60s. I want to resume dating, but female friends tell me I need to remove all traces of my wife from the apartment before I do so. I have not been able to part with anything since she died. […]

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Confronting my grief x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 19, 2018 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve been reading your column for some time now, and trying to follow your advice about confronting rather than avoiding my grief through writing on AfterTalk to my dear wife, Dorothy, who meant the world to me before her death two months ago.  We did just about everything together for decades, and […]

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Widow asks about children and remarriage

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 12, 2018 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr Neimeyer, My husband passed away a few years ago when my children were very young. I was fortunate enough to find a wonderful man and remarry. He has embraced ‘our’ children as if they were his own. My problem is that I am very conflicted. I want my children to grow up knowing […]

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How do I forgive?

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 5, 2018 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, How do I forgive the person who dumped my first-born son unconscious out of his car and left him to die? I lost my son almost three years ago; someone left him unconscious and he died in an empty parking lot alone. He was an organ donor and saved five different lives. […]

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