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Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m a clinical psychologist. I work with many adults who have very difficult relationships with their parents. Some say they anticipate they will feel relief when their parents die. Then they feel guilty for feeling that way. Do you have any advice/thought for people whose grief or anticipated grief is complicated in this way? […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife of almost 35 years died suddenly four weeks ago. Yes she was ill for many years but I took care of her full time including doing her dialysis at home, running her feeding tube every night and doing everything in the house as she was unable to do those things do […]
Continue ReadingHi Dr. Neimeyer, My husband of 40 years died three years ago after a very short illness. (Cancer). Never sick. We had no children, just our beloved pets. He was my life, soulmate, my everything! When he died, I died a little too! I guess my question is, will life get better for me? A […]
Continue ReadingDear colleague, It is our great pleasure to share with you that our Inaugural Summer Institute will be happening on June 17-21, 2019 in Portland, OR, USA. This week-long immersion in experiential workshops is designed to add conceptual clarity, hone process expertise, and especially give participants practical tools to enhance their practice of grief therapy […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, A few months ago, I sadly lost my boy, 18 years old, in a car accident. I have been having bereavement counselling but struggling to build up a rapport. So a friend suggested this site. Since it happened, I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks, something I have never suffered with […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My 18-year old son lost his sister (age 10) two years ago, as a result of cancer. He had a very close relationship with her and was and still is devastated as he grieves for his sister. He has so much anger around her death but he won’t ever talk to me about his grief. He […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, I have a friend who recently had a tragic loss, but I find myself uncertain about what to say to her. I don’t want to intrude. What is the best thing to say to someone who is bereaved? Laurie Dear Laurie, In Buddhism, the Noble Eightfold Path describes the attitudes and behaviors […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My only sister died three years ago after a long battle with cancer during which I was a primary caregiver. She was like a second mother to me since she was sixteen years older than me, and I cannot say what a profound affect her loss has had on my life. Since […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, As I am approaching the second anniversary of my youngest son’s death, I feel as if I will never know exactly who I am for the rest of my life. There are good days and bad days, and today is a bad one. It just cannot ever make sense to me–maybe someday, […]
Continue ReadingDear Dr. Neimeyer, My 27 year old son died almost two years ago. The first year was hard but I mostly felt in a fog. Now it seems that fog is lifting, but this second year is proving to be a lot worse than the first. I am remembering more about the death and funeral […]
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