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Therapist question about a mother who lost a son and is now experiencing complicated grief.

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | May 8, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m a family therapist who has been working with a couple who have lost a young adult son in a drowning accident in a distant country, and in which the mother has remained in a deep, unshakeable grief for over three years, for two of which I have been working with her and her …

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I’ve lost all my parents and siblings

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | May 1, 2017 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve lost all my parents and siblings.  Each one I’ve grieved and tried to move on, but now that I’ve lost my last remaining family member, my sister, five weeks ago, why do I feel like I’m grieving for them all now? I’ve never felt so lost and alone now that I’ve lost …

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Anticipatory Grieving: mourning the living

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | April 24, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Your recent reply to the woman widowed over 25 years ago resonated with me, even though my husband is still alive.  I am a member of the Well Spouse Association, a national nonprofit organization which provides peer support to those caring for chronically ill or disabled spouses. “Chronic sorrow”…”bleaching out of emotions”…”surviving but not thriving”… “sense of not fitting …

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I lost my young wife x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | April 17, 2017 | 0 Comments

I lost my young wife after twenty years of marriage. Since then I feel like I’ve moved on; I found a new wife whom I love completely. We’ve raised terrific children. My problem is that I have an irrational fear of loss. At least once a day I obsess about losing my new wife, our …

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…my friend’s 16 year old daughter committed suicide…x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | April 10, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dr. Neimeyer, Last week, my friend’s 16 year old daughter committed suicide. As far as what is known, there is nothing that indicates the “why”. As I read through your materials, I have learned that we try to bring an understanding to the un-understandable and it eats at us. He and his ex-wife divorced a …

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Deadly car accident takes two daughters

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | April 3, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I was recently in a deadly car accident that took the lives of my two beautiful, funny, and loving baby girls, ages 6 and 8. The accident also resulted in my surviving teenage year old daughter being a paraplegic, and my husband having a TBI, and several fractures in his face, arm, leg …

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Grieving and Exercise

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 27, 2017 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve heard that exercise can make a big difference for people who are suffering grief after a loved one dies.  Is that really true?  I know exercise is good for you in general, but how does it help when you are broken hearted after the death of someone who meant the world …

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Grief and Depression

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 20, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Following the death of my 22 year old daughter of a drug overdose two years ago, I of course have struggled with my grief, but also had two very distinct periods of depression, each approximately 6 months long, filled with classic symptoms of lack of energy to do anything, loss of interest …

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Complicated Grief after multiple losses, now cut off from the world…

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 13, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a director of a bereavement center myself, I am very concerned about a friend. Her mother died about 4 years ago. Her father died about 8 months ago. Then, her son, as far as we know, died of an accidental overdose about one month after her father. The truth is it …

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A Widower’s question: Dwelling on the past… x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 6, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve been following some of the advice given in your column in the 3 months since my wife, Linda, died, and although my life will never be the same, I can see that I am improving.  I was a real mess for a while, but now I’m able to work and concentrate …

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