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I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 20, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago while we were getting ready for his grandmother’s funeral. There were so many unanswered questions, as our daughter was only a year old and she is  now nearing 30. But my question is why I still have my moments of tears and …

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Ex-boyfriend committed suicide x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 6, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, A little over six months ago my ex-boyfriend committed suicide. We had dated for five years and were actually trying to work things out so that we could get back together because we believed we were each other’s soulmates. After he ended his life, I couldn’t sleep, eat, get out of bed or …

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He died so young

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | January 30, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m grieving more in the second year after my son’s passing.   I am embracing the passing and think of him often, which I learned from the grief class I attended last year.   He died so young from a dreaded pancreatic cancer.  Should I return to this class?  I feel otherwise pretty good – missing my little …

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I am in agony x

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | January 23, 2017 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife Angela passed away very recently. It was just us. No children. I am in agony. 24/7. Going to work means nothing. A waste of time. There is no meaning since we lived only for each other. I wish God would take me now. My heart grows weaker each day. I’m …

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I was not permitted to grieve for my Dad

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | January 16, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I was not permitted to grieve  for my Dad when he passed over five years ago because of his wife.  I asked her if I could pick the casket out with her and be involved in the planning of his funeral.  She said no and went ahead with it.  Dad and I were …

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Healing Transitions for Parents

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | January 9, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a counselor with a good deal of experience in working with grief,  I have been hired to present at a senior retirement community in my city.  The audience will be potential patrons who are looking to move their widowed parents from their homes into a facility.  The topic of the presentation …

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I am losing the final piece of him

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | January 2, 2017 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away nearly a dozen years ago and I have been receiving his Social Security Benefits since that time. On my birthday next Spring I will be taking my own Social Security.  My question is:  Why do I feel so apprehensive about taking mine and giving up my husband’s?  This is the …

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I want to be dead

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | December 26, 2016 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr Neimeyer, My attention was recently drawn to your website, and especially this section of it, and I now have a great desire to ask for your help. My beloved husband wanted to die at home.  We had been married for over 50 years, and he had suffered with lung cancer and eventually dementia for …

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Ambiguous Losses: a brother’s cancer diagnosis

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | December 12, 2016 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Five years ago my younger brother, Eric, was diagnosed with cancer, though he was only 15 at the time.  Our life as a family seemed to change overnight, as we all were faced with the fear of what this might mean, and my parents became totally absorbed in his chemotherapy, hospitalizations, and …

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