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Coping with multiple losses

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 28, 2022 | 0 Comments

Editor’s Note–We thought this was highly relevant during the pandemic. Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Why is it so hard? I lost my sister in the Spring, then my husband a month later, then my son two months later. It’s been a losing battle I just don’t know how to handle this. Phyllis Dear Phyllis– When a […]

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Healing Transitions for Parents

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 21, 2022 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a counselor with a good deal of experience in working with grief,  I have been hired to present at a senior retirement community in my city.  The audience will be potential patrons who are looking to move their widowed parents from their homes into a facility.  The topic of the presentation […]

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“I Lost My Husband…”

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 14, 2022 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband one year ago. My biggest problem is our children live so far away and only visit once a year. I feel so isolated because they are so busy with their lives and I am not included. One daughter will call weekly and the other daughter very rarely calls […]

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Getting through grief without anti-depressants?

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 7, 2022 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Is the best and probably only way to get through complicated grief through the use of anti-depressants? Thanks. Demi   Dear Demi, Both clinical experience and clinical research suggest that antidepressant medication is a mixed blessing in the context of bereavement, for several reasons. In fact, for many years psychiatrists agreed that […]

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Grieving the Loss of a Pet

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | March 4, 2022 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Ten years ago my beloved cat, Cloe passed away. She was sick cat and not supposed to live one year. She lived fifteen. Cloe was my constant companion. Whenever I was ill, she lay by my side. When pregnant and on bed rest for months, she was my best friend and confidant, […]

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Death of a Teenage Daughter

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 28, 2022 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My teenage daughter Daniella died in a car accident almost two years ago, and even though I have been able to go on raising my other two children and working in my office job, I continue to feel a great deal of grief and also some irrational guilt about her death, because […]

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Three suggestions for dealing with insensitive consolations

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 21, 2022 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband has been gone less than a year, and I can’t believe the stupid things people say to me, trying to make me “feel better.”  “Time heals all wounds–you just need to stay busy,” “You’ve got to look on the bright side; at least you had him all these years,” and […]

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Holiday Grieving and Valentine’s Day Ask Dr. Neimeyer 2.14.22

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 14, 2022 | 1 Comment

Editor’s Note: we thought this repost would be especially helpful for those who struggle to get through Valentine’s Day Dear Dr. Neimeyer– My husband died just over a year ago, so now begins my second year without him, and I am not looking forward to it.  It’s not that I am immobilized by grief, as […]

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After sudden death of a husband, finding meaning in life: Responses to a Recent Post

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | February 7, 2022 | 1 Comment

Here are some comments posted in response to a recent Ask Dr. Neimeyer post about the sudden death of a husband [some details were changed for anonymity}. I lost my husband this December. So it has been over a month. I cannot sleep or eat. I have to lay on the couch and cannot stand […]

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Fearing the loss of a child

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | January 31, 2022 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Firstly, thank you for providing your expertise online. It has helped me since losing one of my twin sons in his late 20s in a motorcycle accident not long ago. This time has been filled with not only grief for the loss of my very close son, but also worry for his twin brother  who witnessed […]

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