Dear Dr Neimeyer, My husband passed away a few years ago when my children were very young. I was fortunate enough to find a wonderful man and remarry. He has embraced ‘our’ children as if they were his own. My problem is that I am very conflicted. I want my children to grow up knowing
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I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago while we were getting ready for his grandmother’s funeral. There were so many unanswered questions, as our daughter was only a year old and she is now nearing 30. But my question is why I still have my moments of tears and
Grieving for a Husband/ a Daughter’s Wedding
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband Burt died two years ago, and for the most part my family and I are doing fine. The first year was very hard, but it was made easier by a lovely memorial service we had for him on a beach where he used to sail, when we had a family
Inconsolable Grieving: Ask Dr. Neimeyer Special
EDITOR’S NOTE: Two weeks ago we published an Ask Dr. Neimeyer column entitled “Inconsolable Grieving for My Wife” based on a question by ‘Samuel.’ There was such an outpouring of comments, we felt that this week we would publish some of them (the authors all agreed). To see the original column, click this link: INCONSOLABLE
Will life get better for me?
Hi Dr. Neimeyer, My husband of 40 years died three years ago after a very short illness. (Cancer). Never sick. We had no children, just our beloved pets. He was my life, soulmate, my everything! When he died, I died a little too! I guess my question is, will life get better for me? A
I Lost My Husband…
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my dearest husband 3 months ago after years of battling cancer. Our attachment deepened even more when he was diagnosed seven years ago; since then we got to be with each other 24/7. This perhaps is the reason why until now I can’t seem to move on. It’s as if
Complicated and consuming grief of a friend
Dear Dr. Neimeyer I have read and appreciate your work about meaning reconstruction in loss. I have a friend whose grief is so complicated and consuming that she can’t find life for herself (her husband died from cancer about six years ago) and she can’t seem to move forward at all. Here is an excerpt
My husband passed away…
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away in five years ago. It was right before our oldest son graduated from high school and our youngest son was eight. My oldest son graduated with a degree in electrical engineering last year. My oldest son, I believe bottled up everything; he won’t even talk to me or his
After sudden death of a husband; finding meaning in life
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Six months ago my partner of 47 years died suddenly. We have no children and have always been very close and spent a lot of time together. This would have been our first real year of retirement together and we were looking forward to growing old together, just enjoying our free time and everyday things. Now he’s gone I can
Coping with multiple losses
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Why is it so hard? I lost my sister in the spring of 2013, then my husband a month later, then my son two months later 2013. It’s been a losing battle I just don’t know how to handle this. Paulette Dear Paulette, When a person has a litany of losses in