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Bereavement Research opportunities

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | November 13, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have worked for bereavement support centers for the past four years as a member of the clinical staff; however, I have realized that I may not want to focus on clinical practice. I am still passionate about grief and want to contribute to our field in a different, but still meaningful, […]

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Why is it so hard? Coping with multiple losses.

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | November 6, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Why is it so hard? I lost my sister in the spring, then my husband a month later, then my son two months later. It’s been a losing battle I just don’t know how to handle this. Paulina Dear Paulina, When a person has a litany of losses in such close succession […]

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When does grief require clinical intervention?

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 30, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a nurse who works in a palliative care unit of a major metropolitan hospital, where I specialize in bereavement care.  Although the work is very satisfying, it is also frustrating, as I seem to be flooded with referrals for grief therapy from several hospital units when a patient dies, and […]

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My Husband Died: How can I live without him?

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 23, 2017 | 64 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband died in November. He was in his early 40s. We were together nearly 25 years; he was my other half. We did everything together. It is so hard for me. All I do is cry. I know that’s not going to bring him back but I’m so heartbroken. It is […]

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A Bereavement Counselor’s dilemma: the widow is ready: nobody else is.

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 16, 2017 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a bereavement counselor at a hospice.  I have a client who has done amazing work after the death of her husband.  She is in her mid 60’s and very healthy.  She and her husband had counseling before his death and she continued after his death.  She has written, and written, […]

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My husband’s sudden death

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 8, 2017 | 2 Comments

Hi Dr. Neimeyer, My husband’s sudden death happened unexpectedly five years ago at the age of 54. We were together for 33 years. He dropped dead in front of me with no warning. They said that he was gone before he hit the floor. We had a very good marriage and I am thankful for […]

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“…my husband’s daughter accused him of molesting her…”

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 2, 2017 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away suddenly and unexpectedly over two years ago. I am in a lot of emotional pain, but that’s not why I am writing. Three decades ago my husband’s daughter accused him of molesting her; this recollection had come to her, she said, during a course of psychotherapy. He said […]

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Mother died in car accident while son was driving

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | September 25, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Thirteen years ago I experienced a seizure while driving.  My mother was killed in the accident.  I had an extremely close relationship with my mother.  I continue to feel guilty and struggle to make sense of this tragedy. Phil Dear Phil, Your tragic story, summarized vividly in so few words, conveys the catastrophic […]

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Infant Death, Munchausen’s and Grief Counseling

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | September 18, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Thanks for considering my question.  I am a grief counselor working providing support to a local community.  I am currently working with a woman grieving the loss of her infant son, due to premature birth.  She also concurrently has a medical diagnosis of Munchausen’s syndrome.  In trying to navigate grief and re-establish […]

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Daughter lost her husband in an accident

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | September 11, 2017 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My 23 year old daughter lost her husband two years ago. He was a soldier and her high school sweetheart. He was killed in a car accident on a military base. She is so lost and devastated. She feels like she has lost her identity and has questioned everything in life now. […]

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