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Grieving and the Holidays

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | November 25, 2019 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband Don died 9 months ago after a rapid decline; and his lungs basically stopped working, even with oxygen treatments.  His death has been hard for us as a family in many ways, as he lived only about 6 months after getting the diagnosis, and we are now facing the first Christmas […]

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The Roller Coaster of Grief

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | November 18, 2019 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer. Today marks eight months since I lost my husband. He was only 46 years old. I still am having a difficult time realizing he is not coming back. The first few months after he was gone, I had to leave work every single day at lunch to cry in my car and […]

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Loss of a Beloved Uncle

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | November 11, 2019 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I just lost my uncle, and I can’t even see a picture with him in without breaking down. He and I were very close, but I didn’t even get to go to his funeral. I feel like I let him down by not going. The last time I saw him was the […]

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Husband’s Suicide: How do I move on?

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | November 4, 2019 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband of over 30 years killed himself over two years ago. I went through survival mode the first year, and now have my life “working” in a sense, but still ruminate too much about “why,” and what I could have done to change it. I want peace, to accept that this […]

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An Ask Dr. Neimeyer Guest Column Parents and Children

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 28, 2019 | 1 Comment

Two weeks ago we published an Ask Dr. Neimeyer about the decision process for those who are looking to move their widowed parents from their homes into a facility. You can read it by CLICKING HERE Here is an eloquent response from a widow reader: Dear Dr. Neimeyer, This post from Doris, “Healing Transitions for […]

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I was not permitted to grieve for my Dad

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 21, 2019 | 0 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I was not permitted to grieve for my Dad when he passed over five years ago because of his wife.  I asked her if I could pick the casket out with her and be involved in the planning of his funeral.  She said no and went ahead with it.  Dad and I […]

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Healing Transitions for Parents

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 14, 2019 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a counselor with a good deal of experience in working with grief,  I have been hired to present at a senior retirement community in my city.  The audience will be potential patrons who are looking to move their widowed parents from their homes into a facility.  The topic of the presentation […]

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My teenage son was electrocuted…

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | October 7, 2019 | 1 Comment

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My teenage son was electrocuted at home accidentally almost 20 years ago.  My counselor is not happy with my saying he was killed.  I know the difference because about three decades ago, another toddler son  died from a cerebral aneurysm , so in my eyes one died and one was killed and to me […]

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My Daughter Took Her Own Life

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | September 30, 2019 | 2 Comments

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My only child, my 16 year old daughter, took her own life just one month ago.  She showed no signs at all.  Straight A student, worked as cashier part time, saving money for college.  She just finished her College Boards and got an amazing score.  I know this wasn’t planned–she had placed orders […]

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Suicide of a Son: A Mother’s Question

By Dr. Robert Neimeyer | September 23, 2019 | 0 Comments

Editor: Last week was National Suicide Prevention Week, hence this post: Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my son to suicide, and I am struggling with the urge to join him. I try to stay here for my beautiful granddaughter that he left for me to enjoy. There are days that it is almost like living […]

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