Category Archives: Grief Therapy

Tragic Death of a Loved One–finding meaning

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have read and heard you speak about the need to revisit and retell the story of the tragic death of a loved one in order to find meaning in the event.  What stands out in your comments is obvious, but should be underlined, in my view:   the profound Truth about the need

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A new grief therapist asks if being empathic is a liability?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a new therapist who is just beginning to work with grieving people, but wonder if I’ve chosen the right career.  I’ve always known I was an empathic person, someone who could feel genuinely for others who were hurting, and this made me a good listener for friends when I was

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Grief Therapist asks about using AfterTalk

Dear. Dr. Neimeyer– I’m a grief therapist who works frequently with clients who have had difficult losses–sometimes of life partners, sometimes of parents, sometimes of children.  And I’ve been fascinated by AfterTalk ever since I encountered it, as many of my clients are eager to restore a sense of connection and communication with those they

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A therapist experiences heavy losses…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Following a succession of family deaths over an 18 month period, compounded by a difficult move to another part of the country for my husband’s work, I find myself struggling emotionally with my career as a psychologist.  Feeling overwhelmed, I took time off from my practice, and now have to start again

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Traumatic images of their loved one’s dying

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a therapist I often work with people who suffer from traumatic images of their loved one’s dying, even when these result from a difficult death in the hospital. Can you comment on how to help the bereaved who are struggling with difficult images and memories? How does one work through traumatic

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Traumatic Loss Group Therapy

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My colleagues and I are currently recruiting clients for a traumatic loss group in our clinic, one that draws on your approach to grief therapy as meaning reconstruction, which has strong relevance when losses are sudden and often violent.  The group is designed to run 12 weeks, and is closed, meaning that

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Lost a Small Child

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m a therapist in general practice who was just referred a couple who had lost a small child.  The mother called to make the appointment and emphasized that her husband was willing to accompany her, but she also said they seemed to be “on different pages” in dealing with their loss.  We

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Bereavement Research opportunities

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have worked for bereavement support centers for the past four years as a member of the clinical staff; however, I have realized that I may not want to focus on clinical practice. I am still passionate about grief and want to contribute to our field in a different, but still meaningful,

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When does grief require clinical intervention?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a nurse who works in a palliative care unit of a major metropolitan hospital, where I specialize in bereavement care.  Although the work is very satisfying, it is also frustrating, as I seem to be flooded with referrals for grief therapy from several hospital units when a patient dies, and

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Hospice Bereavement Coordinator asks about reaching out…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is related to the bulk of my role as a hospice bereavement coordinator, which is to reach out via telephone to identified bereaved family members of our hospice patients after the patient has passed.  The bereavement model employed is a “clean break” model, meaning the team that cared for the family prior

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