Complicated Grief: A therapist question about the loss of a client’s daughter, possible suicide

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have been working intermittently for many years with a woman named Pam who was divorced when her adult children were adolescents, as a result of the father’s unpredictable and violent behavior and alcoholism. Likewise, two of her four children have had long histories of drug and alcohol use, despite her funding

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I Lost My Son to Suicide…

[Editor: Today is World Suicide Prevention Day] Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my oldest son nearly 8 years ago to suicide at the age of 24.  He shot himself in our home.  Friends and people from church were very kind to us after it happened.  We have three other sons.  They are all grown now, but one

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I lost my daughter…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my  daughter, a 12-year-old, Melissa three weeks ago today. Earlier this summer she was diagnosed with a rare autoimmune disorder but was in good health—at least we thought. But when she got her first treatment, within a week she was in the CVICU and then we had to make the

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Husband’s Suicide: How do I move on?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband of over 30 years killed himself over two years ago. I went through survival mode the first year, and now have my life “working” in a sense, but still ruminate too much about “why,” and what I could have done to change it. I want peace, to accept that this

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Doctor depressed by Patient Suicide

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have a friend who is a retired Obstetrician/Gynecologist from a world renowned medical group. He ruminates and is depressed about a patient he had many years ago. She suffered from postpartum depression after giving birth, and then died by suicide. He tells the story that she came to him, and he believed at

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My Daughter Took Her Own Life

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My only child, my 16 year old daughter, took her own life just one month ago.  She showed no signs at all.  Straight A student, worked as cashier part time, saving money for college.  She just finished her College Boards and got an amazing score.  I know this wasn’t planned–she had placed orders

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Fear of Forgetting: a Therapist’s question

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a social worker and therapist , and I attended one of your workshops a couple years ago.  I have a question for you related to a client I am currently treating.  This client is a man in his mid 20s and his father died when my client was in his mid-teens. 

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